Pre-marital counselling – When two people meet and deciding to get married, they usually make their wedding vows to one another with great hopes and expectations that their marriage will last a lifetime. Wedding is exciting, couples are embarking on a lifetime together. However, after only a few years of marriage, many couples ending up frustrated, hurt, and resentful of each other. They get confused on how things can change between them and sadly, they end up giving up on each other. Pre-marital counselling helps couples to understand that it is normal for marriages to be filled with common problems that most couples experience, and each couple has certain strengths and weaknesses that require a certain approach. Pre-marital counselling is also designed to enhance your understanding of yourself and your partner’s personality, temperament, family background, differences, and facilitate you as a couple in laying solid foundations for your future to be built upon.
Some benefits of pre-marital counselling are:
- It helps build a solid foundation for marriage.
- It helps couples begin a dialogue.Topics like communication, finances, sex and parenting need to be discussed before
- It points out areas of concern in the relationship.No relationship is perfect. Potential problems, conflict and struggles should be addressed.
- It preserves couples from temptation.Getting engaged can result in couples rationalizing premarital sex. Premarital sex and other temptations need to be discussed.
- It prepares couples for the marriage, and not just the wedding day. Couples can have a tendency to focus on the wedding day and not on the marriage.
- It is recommended that you seek pre-marital counselling 3-6 months before your wedding date so that you have the time and space to give to this most crucial investment into your life together.